Mensen lachen haar uit om haar “walgelijke” benen – dan heeft ze de perfecte reactie

In onze hedendaagse samenleving is uiterlijk heel belangrijk geworden, zeker met de groei van de sociale media.

Mensen hebben overal een mening over: hoeveel je weegt en hoe je je kleedt bijvoorbeeld. Dit kan soms heel erg kwetsend zijn.

Door deze fixatie met het uiterlijk zie je dagelijks tips over hoe je gewicht kunt verliezen, maar dit is soms makkelijker gezegd dan gedaan.

Om het perfecte gewicht te hebben moet je soms je levensstijl volledig aanpassen en dat heeft zowel fysiek als mentaal gevolgen voor een persoon.

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Losing weight is hard. Yes I have lost over 350 pounds, but it was a journey. Everyone has their own reasons, challenges, and struggles as to why they ended up needing to lose weight. For me, I used food for comfort. I had an unhealthy relationship with myself and with my image. I did not take care of myself. I got myself into a position where I ended up weighing over 500 pounds before I woke up and decided I needed to change. As much as I love before and after pictures, there is also something that is …tricky about them. It is easy to look at someone else's progress and think "wow they look so good I wish I was like that". What these pictures don't show is how much hard work it took to make those changes. For me, it was a lot of blood, sweat, falls, self doubt, self love, changing my ways, my thinking, wanting to give up, never giving up, laughter, pain, injury, happiness and lots and lots of tears. These pictures don't show all of the hard work that went into those changes! So when you find yourself struggling or thinking "I wish I was like them" know that you can do it too. I hope you can see this picture and know that anything is possible. You can live a healthy and happy life that you are proud of. You can do it too!! With hard work, dedication and always believing in yourself anything is possible! . . . #jacquelineadan #jacquelinesjourney #effyourbeautystandards #selflove #lovemybody #lovemyshape #weightloss #weightlossjourney #weightlosstransformation #weightlossmotivation #beforeandafter #beforeandafterweightloss #extremeweightloss #wlstories #onaquest #bodybuilding #bodytransformation #bodybuildingcom #poparmy #transformation #transformationfitnation #trainlikeabeastlooklikeabeauty #transformationtuesday #tuesdaytransformation #fit #fitspo #igweightloss #fattofit #naturalweightloss #fitfam

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De blogger Jacqueline Adan had een geweldige prestatie verricht en was van 226 kilo naar 68 kilo afgevallen. Maar ondanks alles kreeg ze nog steeds commentaar op de sociale media – en dit door haar benen.

Jacqueline besloot toen een foto te posten in haar zwempak en een reactie te schrijven.

Jacqueline voelde zich moedig en haar bericht kreeg meer dan 30.000 likes op Instagram. Dit is wat ze schreef:

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When we were on vacation in Mexico a few weeks ago, it was the first time I had worn a bathing suit in a long time, and it had been even longer since I wore a bathing suit without a cover up. I was nervous to take my cover up off and to walk into the pool or walk on the beach. I still felt like that same 500 pound girl…then it happened. A couple sitting by the pool started laughing and pointing at me and making fun of me as soon as I took my cover up off. So what did I do? I took a deep breath, smiled and walked into the pool. That was a huge moment for me. I had changed. I was not the same girl anymore. Yes I still have a lot of loose skin, I may still feel insecure at times, and yes I may still get made fun of. To be honest, yes it bothered me. But I was not going to let people like that affect me anymore! I am not going to let what other people think of me stop me from living my life. They do not know me. They do not know how I have worked my ass off to lose 350 pounds. They do not know how I am recovering from major surgeries. They have no right to sit and point and laugh at me. That's why I smiled. It does not matter what others say or if they try to doubt you or try to bring you down. What matters is how you react to it. How you feel about yourself. Loving yourself just the way you are is hard. Others might not like that. That's ok. I hope you love yourself. Love your body. I hope you keep doing you and just keep smiling! . . . . . #jacquelineadan #jacquelinesjourney #effyourbeautystandards #selfloveclub #selflove #lovemybody #lovemyshape #loveyourself #teamself #extremeweightloss #weightloss #weightlossjourney #weightlosstransformation #weightlossmotivation #beforeandafter #beforeandafterweightloss #wlstories #onaquest #bodybuildingcom #bodypositive #bodyconfidence #bodyposi #transformationfitnation #motivationmonday #mondaymotivation #fitfam #fitspo #bodytransformation #igtransformations #transformationjourney

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“Toen we een paar weken geleden naar Mexico zijn geweest heb ik de eerste keer in een lange tijd nog eens een badpak gedragen”, zo schrijft Jacqueline in haar post. Ze gaat dan verder:

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So I tried something huge this weekend that I thought I was ready for. Since my loose skin will be removed on my legs in less than 2 weeks I have really been trying to show my legs a lot of love. I have been trying to let go of the anger, shame and embarrassment. So I thought, why not try on a pair of shorts….just to see how I looked and how I felt about myself….especially pre surgery. I felt a little nervous walking into the mall but I felt strong and brave and ready. I found a super cute pair of shorts and my confidence came back a little bit! Walking into the dressing room I started feeling like I shouldn’t be doing this. I started thinking that everyone was looking at me and wondering why I was trying shorts on. But I was not backing out now! I went into the dressing room and I put the shorts on and they fit perfectly. I looked down and I felt a huge sigh of relief..they fit!!!! Then I looked in the mirror. I felt awful! I stood there looking at myself in the mirror and started crying. I did not feel confident, I did not feel beautiful and I did not feel like there was any way I could ever walk out of that dressing room! I felt frozen. Like my feet were cemented on the floor and paralyzed in fear, shame, embarrassment and I did not love myself or my body. I just stood there looking at myself. The longer I stood there staring at myself, I was able to let go of some of that hate, shame, anger and embarrassment. I was proud of myself for even trying the shorts on. I was brave and strong. Soooo no I never had the courage to walk outside of the dressing room but that’s ok. I might not have loved myself in those moments in the dressing room and I might not be quite confident in myself yet to wear them and even after the skin is removed I may never be comfortable enough to wear shorts…but that will never stop me from trying. We are not going to be filled with self love and self confidence everyday. That’s ok! For me, the fact that I will keep trying, and keep doing everything I can to love and be proud of the body I have is a huge win. I am a work in progress but that doesn’t mean that I will ever stop trying!

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“Ik was nerveus om mijn kleren uit te doen en naar het zwembad of naar het strand te gaan. Ik voelde me nog steeds als toen ik 226 kilo woog… maar toen besloot ik het toch te doen.

Een koppel die aan het zwembad zat, begon te lachen en naar me te wijzen nadat ik mijn kleren had uitgedaan.

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What do you see when you look in the mirror? Are you able to see how amazing you are, how much you love yourself? Or do you hate the reflection you see and find everything wrong with you and your body? When you look in the mirror, can you see your own self love? To a lot of us showing self love is a hard thing to do. It is especially hard to love ourselves all of the time! When we hear other others talking about how they love who they are and how important it is to love yourself, it can be hard! If you are someone who has heard that before, and you are still struggling with self love and still struggle with the reflection that you see in the mirror don’t be ashamed or embarrassed. Don’t feel like something must be wrong with you because no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to love yourself. Being able to look in the mirror and not being able to say “I love you” does not mean anything is wrong with you. For some of us… we might not ever be able to get there. BUT, I believe that even if we feel like at this moment in our lives, that we will never be able to say “I love you” to ourself, that you promise you will never stop trying. Hold onto the hope that maybe one day, you will be able to get to that place where you can actually have self love. Hope is a powerful thing, so don’t you underestimate it. Hope is what kept me going for so long. Hope that one day, I would be happy with myself and with my body. Hope that I will be able to look in the mirror and love who I see everyday. For me, I am not quite at a place of being at peace with myself and my body all of the time but I know that I am doing everything I can to take care of myself, body and mind, so I can try to fully love myself and come to peace with my body! That is self love! I may still have a hard time always loving the reflection in the mirror but I know that deep down in my heart, I do have love for myself. That small fire inside, that hope that I will be able to keep loving myself more and more everyday is what keeps me going. It’s what keeps me loving myself, and my own reflection in the mirror more and more everyday!

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Dus wat deed ik toen? Ik haalde diep adem en ging richting het zwembad.

Dit was een heel belangrijk moment voor mij.

Ik was veranderd.

Ik was niet meer hetzelfde meisje als vroeger.

Ja, ik heb nog steeds een zeer losse huid, en ik voel me hier heel onzeker over en ik lig er soms ook wakker van.

Ik moet eerlijk zeggen dat het soms lastig is. Maar ik heb besloten me niets meer aan te trekken van wat andere mensen denken van mij.”

“Ik ben van plan om de gedachten van anderen mijn leven niet te laten beïnvloeden en ik wil gewoon mijn eigen leven leiden.

Ze kennen me niet.

Ze weten niet hoe hard ik heb moeten werken om 159 kilo af te vallen.

Ze beseffen niet hoe moeilijk het is om van een grote operatie te herstellen.

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The time has come!!! It is finally time to have the skin removal on my legs!!! I am so emotional just typing that out! It is now, the moment I have been waiting for…forever!!! If you have been following me for a while then you know this has been a long time coming!! I have been most nervous but most excited about this day! That day is almost here!!! Ahhh!!! It is time for skin removal on my legs! . I was able to sit down with my surgeon @joelbeckmd and film EXACTLY what this next surgery will entail for me!  The exact date of surgery, Where he will cut, scars, drains, what exact surgery I am having, why we are choosing to remove the skin this way, recovery, pain, literally everything!!! Clickable link is in my bio to watch this video!! . This part of my journey has been emotional. With the pain from the skin, the mental challenges with the skin on my legs, the endless physical therapy, massages, compression garments, stress, tests, anger and frustration…my skin removal journey has been an emotional one.  With my legs…it might be the most emotional one yet. As I was filming this video, and looking down at the loose skin…a lot of emotions were running through my head. A lot. Anger, frustration, sadness, regret, excitement, happiness, fear… but what I am going to focus on is excitement and being proud of myself. I am going to focus on how much this surgery is going to help me!  All I can do is keep moving forward and getting myself physically and mentally prepared for this next step of my journey! Let go of the self-anger and fill it with strength, pride, and love! I know this surgery will change my life in so many ways and I am SO ready!!! . The clickable link to the full video is in my bio.

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Ze hebben daarom het recht niet om naar mij te wijzen en te lachen.

Daarom plaats ik dit bericht.

Het maakt niet uit wat anderen zeggen. Wat belangrijk is is hoe je zelf reageert. Wat denk je over jezelf? Je moet van jezelf houden, ook al kan dit soms moeilijk zijn.

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Just finished up another lymphatic massage and got myself all wrapped back up in compression again. Sometimes I can stay patient, trust the journey, and know that everything will be ok. Some days for whatever reason…I am just super frustrated. Today…super frustrated. But what I have been working on is allowing myself to feel those emotions and thoughts. To know it’s ok to be frustrated that my whole body is swollen because…it is frustrating. My first thought when I woke up this morning is how I wanted to turn to food. How I just did not want to deal with my emotions and wanted to try to cover them up with food. BUT…I didn’t. For today, that is enough to be proud of. That is a huge step in recovery, something that is bigger than what my body is physically going through. It’s small changes like this, that will add up in the long run and not just continue to help me now, but continue to help me for the rest of the life. I decided to just relax during my massage, let myself get lost in the music, and with every breath I imagined fluid just releasing from my body. I know I am ok, I will be ok and in this moment, it’s exactly where I need to be! A video talking all about swelling and more details as to what is going on with my body will be up tomorrow! Hopefully it will answer your questions and clear a lot of things up for you! I will of course let you know when that is up on my YouTube channel!

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Niet iedereen zal je leuk vinden. Dat is oké. Maar probeer wel van jezelf te houden.

Houd van je lichaam.

Ik hoop dat je blijft doen wat je gelukkig maakt en blijft glimlachen!”

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Sometimes we can let our past experiences define us. They can make us become what happened to us. They can define us. I could have just told myself that living a life being 500 pounds was just the life I was supposed to live. That it was just who I was. I could have let everyone else’s opinions of me make me feel like that is just who I was always going to be- the “shy fat girl”. I could have just given up and taken on that role forever. I could have decided to lose over 300 pounds and be left with all of this loose skin all over my body and just said “this is good enough”. I could have listened to all of the doctors who told me it was only “cosmetic” to have skin removal surgery and I could have went on with my life pretending I was not in physical and mental pain because of it. I could have just given up, and not had the surgery and carried around 30 plus pounds of extra skin for the rest of my life. After I decided to have surgery I could have given up and decided it’s too hard, too painful and I can’t make it through. I could have told myself this is not worth it. I am not worth it. I could have accepted that life was just hard for me, and there was nothing that I could do about it. I could have let all of those experiences break me and define me. But I didn’t. I am the only one who will decide who I am, and I will be the one to choose who I become! I will not ever give up or back down or let my circumstances define me. I am not what has happened to me. I am what I choose to become.

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Jacqueline leerde gaandeweg van haar lichaam te houden. Ze weet dat het een lange weg is, maar ziet deze met optimisme, vastberadenheid en een mooie glimlach tegemoet.

Ze is onlangs geopereerd om de overtollige huid op haar benen te verwijderen.

We hebben veel respect voor de woorden van Jacqueline. Niet iedereen zou het aandurven. Deel dit artikel op Facebook als je ook hiermee akkoord gaat!